tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post6000767254070639007..comments2023-06-25T11:25:37.908-04:00Comments on Inquisitive Muslimah: A question ...Aalyahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02962364965528539568noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post-33362543157943932642009-07-24T13:28:14.696-04:002009-07-24T13:28:14.696-04:00Salaam Aalya,
I am so happy to see someone else t...Salaam Aalya,<br /><br />I am so happy to see someone else talking about taking things slow and carefully. There is so much pressure for converts to rush into everything without taking the time to really consider what you personally are ready for (both in terms of your deen and your own personal circumstances).<br /><br />Thank you for posting this, it is nice to see honest discussion about topics such as this :-)shahadashyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00755544445428727854noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post-21067368665144817342009-05-24T03:28:15.216-04:002009-05-24T03:28:15.216-04:00Selam, I just found your blog, was referred here b...Selam, I just found your blog, was referred here by Lisa. :)<br />I think someone can say "well you should tell her" but unless they're in your shoes they're not going to understand. <br />With my mom, she doesn't even know I legally changed my first name more than 3 years ago. If I told her, I'm afraid it'll break her heart. My relationship with her is not super close, and I can't remember how I broke the news to her about converting. There were a few years she was not talking to me, but alhamdullilah after my first daughter was born communication started again. I would suggest doing things slowly, and increasing your iman.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post-79449056860265672382009-04-27T03:50:00.000-04:002009-04-27T03:50:00.000-04:00Salam Aalya,
I agree with Lisa and cawminsoon. Yo...Salam Aalya,<br /><br />I agree with Lisa and cawminsoon. You ARE strong.<br /><br />And personally, I think Allah knows that you are still learning, and that Allah sees that you are trying... and in the end its Allah's opinion of us that matters.<br /><br />So keep it up... I pray that Allah smoothen your path in life.<br /><br />*hugs*Kit Prydehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01004665730958614224noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post-16103798268645221552009-04-03T11:54:00.000-04:002009-04-03T11:54:00.000-04:00subhana"Allah sis! Wow you are so strong and ...subhana"Allah sis! Wow you are so strong and may Allah (swt) help you through these difficult times. To think I find it difficult to do things with a Muslim family so I can only imagine what it would be like for you.<BR/><BR/>Stay Strong. Pray. & insha'Allah things will get easier with time.Umm Aymanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09858766672741086582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post-1843480827659228292009-04-03T05:16:00.000-04:002009-04-03T05:16:00.000-04:00I have the same problem...i cant do dawah to my fa...I have the same problem...i cant do dawah to my family especially my parents. In singapore, its a very traditional society still. Main religion is buddhism and taoism. <BR/><BR/>I alreadi have problems going out with my parents as they doesnt like my hijab. :*(Ahxuanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17827849679935424288noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post-57238586717736532122009-04-02T21:27:00.000-04:002009-04-02T21:27:00.000-04:00Assalamualaikum sis,Quite a predicament. You have ...Assalamualaikum sis,<BR/><BR/>Quite a predicament. You have substantial reasons for not disclosing your faith and I respect that. Perhaps you need a little more time. Nevertheless, I do hope that eventually, Insha'Allah you'll garner the strength that you exhibit through your anonymous identity and stand tall on your beliefs among the people surrounding you. I'm sure they'll accept it well, because that is you. :)Hajar Alwihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02080749465091091832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post-69923285605795648572009-04-02T10:13:00.000-04:002009-04-02T10:13:00.000-04:00Isnt it a part of being a Muslim though that the c...Isnt it a part of being a Muslim though that the community should know you are a Muslim? I know that refers to the Muslim community, but to keep it from your friends, family and co-workers, it is like you are hiding it or ashamed.<BR/><BR/>Plus do you want to wear hijab? Do you feel it is right? If the answers are yes and you are not, then perhaps Allah will question you about it.<BR/><BR/>Also, how can your family or anyone learn about Islam, if you arent practicing in public?<BR/><BR/>And finally, I would imagine you find your ibadah difficult - prayers and fasts - if the people you are with do not know (and are therefore unable to support you)<BR/><BR/>In the end, we all have reasons for our decisions, and I support you no matter what because I love you, but I feel that you might be influenced by Shayton and your Islam will suffer because of this.<BR/><BR/>Anyone who has to hide who they are for whatever reason, must truly be suffering somehow, and I think if this is what you feel and believe you need to strive for it. I feel that to do otherwise is a disservice to yourself, and those around you.<BR/><BR/>Allahu alim, ukhti. Just my two pennies worth.بنت بيترhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11948124343720738832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post-66474568511245444482009-04-01T21:47:00.000-04:002009-04-01T21:47:00.000-04:00I think you have made a wise decision in the short...I think you have made a wise decision in the short term. Aalya, when I look at the situation from my vantage point, I'm reminded of how I told everyone and showed them right away. I showed them outwardly by wearing the religion on my head, and for a time even becoming a niqaabi.<BR/><BR/>But, inside dear, inside I wasn't ready to stand up for Islam.<BR/><BR/>It is so good that you are increasing in your iman first. You will be able to weather the inevitable and not be dragged down in your deen when you tell everyone. <BR/><BR/>And additionally, they will see that this wasn't about your marriage at all. That you really wanted to be Muslim for yourself. And they will respect you more.<BR/><BR/>You still have plenty of time sister. Feel no pressure. Inshallah, I wouldn't even start worrying until you have a 4 year old who asks questions :)<BR/><BR/>I love you so much. Believe me your family already knows. And your co-workers do as well deep down. This will be easier then you think dear.Yaseminhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09511727103777114798noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3232363564912219130.post-53693130771890364132009-04-01T16:57:00.000-04:002009-04-01T16:57:00.000-04:00I think it's totally understandable for you not to...I think it's totally understandable for you not to want to tell your mom. I don't think it's something that needs to be fully public, especially in your circumstances. It's not worth devastating your mom. <BR/><BR/>I know that with my family, they are super supportive and accepting, and that they would accept me in any way, but I too, would not want to hurt my mom and stress her out, etc. I made her go through enough with my relationship. So I understand where you're coming from! <BR/><BR/>I love how anonymous blogging is... It does allow me to get my feelings out about a subject I don't really want to go into with most people in my life. I gave the link to only one friend so far, just because she is curious about religion and all that. She gave it to another of my friends. They are the only ones who are my real life friends who know about the blog. It's kinda nice to have this space for myself. :)Candicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15769515811889621243noreply@blogger.com