Assalam alaikum & Peace to all
For a few days now I've been irritated with my mom and I can't figure out if I am being rational about it or just emotional? So why not ask all of you out there? Here is the story.
My mom is living with us now for a few months, we are going to be moving into our new home in about a month (inshallah) and we have so many things to do in the apartment before it can be put on sale - massive cleaning and some structural work too (ie. finishing the flooring off and painting) So for these few months it has been a real struggle with my mom in terms that I find myself telling her 'what to do' everyday. She was living on her own for about 2 years and has taken care of her family (my Father and myself) for over 30 years so it's not like she does not know how to run a household, or cook, etc. I really looked forward to having the cooking done by her and her helping out with the household cleaning. Ok, I know that sounds harsh but it's nice to have some help (I work far from home so by the time I get home I feel so drained that the cooking and household chores suffer a bit - at least until the weekend) so thankfully my mom being healthy and capable to help out I was happy. Well, it has not really worked out that way at all.
She constantly is asking me what to cook and how to cook it...etc. She does not really take the initive to clean the house if she sees something a mess, instead she will say 'oh why are you doing that, when I can do it?" (huh... why didn't you do it then in the first place?) Once again is this harsh of me? Maybe it is, but she is always saying to me 'Don't do things, relax and let me do them.' Ok, thanks Mom but YOUR'RE NOT DOING THEM! (blush) I just can't tell my mom, oh go clean the bathroom, do the laundry, cook, etc. I feel as if I'm treating her like a maid.
Hubby is getting a bit frustrated with the situation as well, and so am I. It's just not easy to adjust to this life with her living there. It is a small apartment and she has her own small room and she will just go in there and watch TV, read, etc. So I feel strange, like I've shut her off from us, but it is her that closes the door and shuts herself off from us. So many times we've said come and sit with us, or don't close the door, etc. So I just don't know but it is all getting on my nerves, all these little things are pilling up and making me stressed, and I know I'll just blow up at her and that won't solve anything.
So, dear bloggers out there .... am I just a horrible insensitive daughter?? I would appreciate any comments or advice you may have.
Also I've started a pregnancy/baby diary so if you want to check it out
A mommy in training
I guess I'll find out what it's like to be a mom one day (inshallah)